Take back control of my career?
What does that mean? When did I lose control of my career? What does taking control of my career even look like?
At The Career Reset, we help people take back control of their careers. But when I tell people that, they always say the same thing. That’s interesting. How do you do that?
People don’t really think about whether or not they’re in control of their careers. Their careers just tick along one week into the next. You show up, do your job, and someone puts money in your bank account. And that cycle just goes on and on until, one day, there’s a problem.
And that problem could be you have a bad boss,
… or a new assignment,
… office culture shifts,
… or simply boredom and dissatisfaction with what you’re role, or career choice….
…and on and on.
All of those things start to get in your way.
Some kind of change happens that either freaks you out, or takes you out of alignment with how you like to work. It takes you out of you out of your comfort zone, and you need to decide what to do about it.
So that’s when people realize, oh I need to take control of this thing. As soon as there’s a problem, that’s when people start refocusing on what’s going on with their careers.
And that’s where I come in.
A lot of people in these situations need help figuring out how to take control of their career. In fact, I would say the SMART people in these situations reach for help. They don’t try to go it alone.
So TAKING BACK CONTROL OF YOUR CAREER means you’re making career decisions for yourself WITH purpose ON purpose.
Every career professional needs to have a career plan that is focused on THEIR OWN career goals. A plan that is focused on the areas of growth YOU deem important to get to those goals, with a support network that is strategically aligned with where YOU want to go… not where your organization wants you to go. And a plan that creates awareness and visibility of what you can do with the right influencers. A plan that goes BEYOND where you work right now.
THAT IS WHAT TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR CAREER LOOKS LIKE.
And over 4 episodes, I’m going to share with you, the path that I use with MY Clients to help them take back control of their careers. I’m going to answer that question that I get all the time… well how do you do that? How do you help people take back control of their career.
Here are the 4 stages we’ll be covering.
- Rediscovering your best self
- Knowing What you Want
- Planning for Your Career Success
- Staying Motivated and Accountable to your Career
In this episode, we’re focusing on REDISCOVERING YOUR BEST SELF.
The reason I start here is because #1…success is 80% mindset. And only 20% strategy and busy work… (p.s. It was Tony Robbins who said that).
If you did nothing else but focus on your mindset, you would be happier and more successful.
And the second reason is that I have found that by the time most people come to me, they’ve been stuck for a while, so they’re tired. Their minds are tired. Sometimes they feel a little beatdown. They’ve lost their confidence
And their minds are focused on what’s not working. And what’s missing. They’re focused on what they can’t do and all the problems and hurdles that are in their way.
So starting with mindset is kind of like starting with a mental clean slate.
The goal in this first stage is really to start you on the path to opening your mind to what’s possible in your career. And also to get you more focused on where your opportunities are, and what’s working for you.
Now I’m not going to be able to take you through this entire process today, but I am going to give you three areas to focus on, and a little homework to get you started.
And if you’re interested in going deeper, then definitely subscribe to the podcast because Career Mindset is a one of the core categories of content I’ll be covering on this Podcast.
Here are the highlights of the three exercises I discuss in this episode!
WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE
Open up a page in your notebook or a google doc and make two columns. The first is how you feel today. And the second column is how you feel at your best.
And in each column, you’re going to answer this question;
What do you believe about your career? And you can list as many beliefs as you can in both columns. Don’t hold back, just let it flow.
WHAT DOES FAILURE MEAN?
In your notebook or google doc. First reflect on WHY you feel however you feel about failure. Why do you fear it? Why is it scary? And is your fear based in something real? Or something you’re making up?
And then the second exercise is to go back to that chart you started with beliefs. That chart with the two columns. And then answer this question…
How do you feel about failure? So how do you feel about failure TODAY? And how do you feel about failure when you’re operating at your best?
GET THE RESULTS YOU WANT
Go back to the two columns and just answer that question…
What kind of results are you getting today vs. when you’re at your best?
And a result is anything that YOU DID that had an outcome. How a certain conversation went. How a meeting went. How you handled a tough situation, or a sudden change to your workflow. Or how you managed or led a situation with your team.
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[2:40] Why people decide to take control of their career.
[4:37] What taking back control of your career really means.
[8:43] The definition of career happiness.
[11:13] The first stage of taking back control of your career: Rediscovering Your Best Self.
[18:45] Exercises #1: What You Believe.
[21:25] Exercises #2: What Failure Means.
[23:19] Exercises #3: Get the Results You Want.
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[Intro] Welcome to The Career Reset Podcast. Your One-Stop-Shop for creating a want-to-career that gives you meaning and purpose and still pays the bills. So if you’re ready for the Ultimate Mashup of Life Coaching and Career Management, stick around because you’re in the right place.
So let’s get started. I’m your host, former Corporate-lifer, turned Founder and CEO Mel Savage.
Well hello and welcome back to The Career Reset Podcast.
It’s really great to have you here. And as you just heard, I’m Mel Savage, founder and CEO of the career reset where my focus is to help people take back control of their career. And that’s where we’re going to talk about today.
And over the course of the next few episodes, we’re going to talk about how you take back control of your career, which is a really interesting proposition because most people don’t think about whether or not they’re actually in control of their careers. In fact, when someone asks me what I do and I say I help people take back control of their career, most of the time people kind of look at me a little confused, right? And they say something like, huh, that sounds interesting. How do you do that?
And the reason most people are curious is because they haven’t really thought about whether or not they’re in control of their careers.
Their careers are just, you know, ticking along one week into the next. You show up. You do your job. Somebody puts money in your bank account and that cycle goes on and on until one day there’s a problem. And that problem could be, you know, a myriad of things.
It could be you have a bad boss. You get an assignment that’s not clicking with you. Maybe your office culture shifts a little bit and isn’t really aligned with who you are anymore. It could be simply that you’re bored. It’s not dynamic enough and you’re dissatisfied with your role or your career choice.
It goes on and on and on. As all these things that become potential problems, all of these things start to get in your way, right? Some kind of change happens that either freaks you out or takes you out of alignment with how you like to work. It takes you out of your comfort zone, and then you need to decide what you want to do about it.
And it’s at that point, when you think you need to decide what you need to do about it, that’s when people realize, Oh, I need to take control of this thing. As soon as there’s a problem, that’s when people start kind of refocusing on what’s going on with their careers.
Now, what ends up happening a lot of the time is that people don’t actually know what to do, so they don’t do anything at all, right? Whether they’re consciously doing this or not, they just tend to go with the flow. They think, you know what, I’m an adult. I can handle this. Let’s see where this goes.
And sometimes they can’t handle it, right? And sometimes it gets overwhelming, it becomes too much to handle, and that’s when things start to break down, right? You stop showing up at your best, you get more frustrated, you lose perspective.
You start to complain. You don’t like the people around you. Your performance on the job tends to suffer. And somewhere along that path where things start to break down is when people realize, okay, I need to start taking control of this, got to do something about this. Can’t go on like this.
But then of course the obvious question is, okay, what do I do now?
And that’s where I come in, right? A lot of people in these situations need help figuring out how to take control of their career. In fact, I would say the smart people in these situations reach for help, okay? They don’t try to go it alone.
So taking back control of your career means that you start making career decisions for yourself, okay? Decisions that are with purpose, on purpose. Iit means that you have a career plan and career focus that’s 100% about you, right? It’s aligned with what’s important to you. How you like to work and the life you want to lead.
And really importantly, it’s a career plan that is completely separate from any type of plan that you know you might be obligated to create at a company that you’re working for.
Because a lot of people will say, Oh yeah, I’ve got a career plan, but what they really have is a plan for growth at the company that they’re currently working for, right? It’s a plan that you’re all obligated to build as part of your performance development inside the organization that you work for.
And while it’s good to have that, it is very narrow. And if something goes sideways at your company, right? One of those problems that we talked about before starts to pop up? Then you’re kind of stuck, right?
What are you going to do because you don’t have a plan for anything outside of the organization that you work in?
Every career professional needs to have a career plan that is focused on their own career goals. Write a plan that is focused on the areas of growth you deem important with a support network that is strategically aligned with where you want to go, right? Not where your organization wants you to go or where your organization thinks that you’re capable of going.
And a plan that creates awareness and visibility of what you can do with the right influencers that actually may be go beyond where you work right now, right? That’s what taking control of your career looks like. And over the course of the next four episodes, so this episode and three more after this, I really want to dig deep into how you can take control of your career.
And I’m going to share with you the path that I use with my clients to help them take back control of their careers. I’m going to answer the question that I get all the time. How do you do that? How do you go about taking control of your career? What does that look like? What’s involved in something like that?
And the reason I want to share this with you early on in my podcast is because I want you to know that it’s doable, okay? A lot of the time people stay stuck because they don’t think they can do anything else, right? Or they tried something before and it, it didn’t work. Or they’ve lost their confidence, right? They think nobody’s going to want them, particularly if they’ve been stuck or they’ve been out of work for a long time.
And even if you’re at your lowest of low points, this is still doable. You just have to be ready to show up and do the work. You have to want it because there is work involved.
You are gonna have to push yourself outside of your comfort zone a little bit every day, okay.
Now, sometimes I get people who want to work with me and I just want to skip to the end, right? They want the answer and they want it now. They’re like, yeah, can you just give me a questionnaire or something and then like psychoanalyze me and then tell me what I should do next? Tell me what I need to do to be happy in my career.
And you know what? I wish it worked that way. I wish I could just press a button and fill in a questionnaire and lose 30 pounds, right? I wish I could just press a button and have $10 million in my bank account.
But career, happiness and success takes work and it’s work that only you can do. And here’s another thing that I want you to think about, to just to noodle for a little bit.
Career happiness is not a destination, okay? It’s a lifestyle. It’s something that you practice. It’s something that you need to manage and being in control of all the time
Just like watching her diet or fitness or raising kids, right? If you want to be successful in any of those things, you need to be on it, right? You need to be all in. Same thing with your career. If you want to see the success and the career happiness you deserve, you need to prioritize your career above your day job before your day job, okay? All the time.
You got to do the work and is it hard work? Yeah, sometimes for sure. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable, but you know what? It is way easier and I mean way easier than being stuck in a job you don’t love.
Or drifting from one job or career to another. Keeping your fingers crossed that you’re going to land in the right place for you.
So let’s get into it. Okay. What we’re going to be talking about over the course of the next four episodes are the four stages of taking back control of your career. One stage per episode, starting with the first stage today.
And even though I call them stages, okay, they’re not really linear. They’re not consecutive stages. I would consider them more like concurrent stages that are layered on top of each other. Okay. Kind of like kind of like a four part harmony. They all work together and you’re constantly moving in between them as you’re managing your career.
And the four stages that I want to talk about with you are
1) Rediscovering Your Best Self
2) Knowing what you want
3) Planning for your success
4) Staying Accountable and Making it Happen.
So even though these four stages are not consecutive, right? They are these concurrent layers. Even so you still need to take it one step at a time, right? You don’t want to get overwhelmed.
So if you’re just starting out, or you don’t have a career plan or you’re starting over or you’ve been stuck for a while, you got to start somewhere. You can’t start everything at once. And where I always recommend people start is with the mind, okay?
Your mindset is the key to your success. Okay? In fact, success is 80% mindset. Okay? 20% strategy, busy work. No, I didn’t come up with that. I don’t know who did actually, and I don’t know how scientific it is, but if you’re interested in learning more about that, I’m going to put some links in the show notes to some very important people who have actually talked about this before.
But whether it’s 80% whether it’s 70% I think we all know that it is intuitively true, right? So elite athletes talk about this all the time. How a huge part of their success is getting their mind focused.
And you know what, you see it in your life all the time. When your mind is focused, when you’re thinking clearly and feeling mentally strong, that’s when you get the best results, right?
So success is 80% mindset, right? That is huge.
If you did nothing else but consistently focus on, you know, improving and honing your mindset in your current career situation, even where you are right now, you would be more successful than you are right now. You would be happier than you are right now. You would be more fulfilled than you are right now.
The mind is so powerful and your mindset drives so much of your results that just focusing, you know, a big part of your energy there is going to make a big difference in your life and in your career.
So the first stage and the most foundational stage of taking back control of your career is rediscovering your best self. And the reason I start here is that I find by the time most people get to me, they’ve been stuck for a while, right?
They are tired, sick and tired, right? Their minds are tired. Sometimes they can feel a little beat down. They’ve lost their confidence, they’ve lost their mojo, right?
And their attitude and their minds are focused on what’s not working. They’re focused on what’s missing. They’re focused on what they can’t do and all the problems and all the hurdles that are in their way. And they’re, they don’t feel very courageous about taking chances at this point.
And I get that. I totally get that feeling because I have been there, and I’m going to share my story in a few episodes, but I promise you that I know what it’s like to be at rock bottom. I know what it’s like to be lost. And I know what it’s like to feel like you’re trapped and there is no way out. Okay? So believe me, I know it’s not easy.
And the very first thing that I had to do was refocused by mindset, right? And that was so hard because I had left it so long, but it, it was the thing that helped me turn things around. It’s really so important that you focus on resetting where your head sat so that you can slowly start to build back the energy and the belief in yourself that you can achieve whatever you want to achieve. All right?
Because most people aren’t in that mindset. I wasn’t in that mindset when I first decided to leave my corporate job. Now we all already know how to do this. Okay? We all already know how to show up as our best self because we’ve done it before.
We might’ve lost sight of that person, but you know that person. You’ve been that person before. So just think of a time in your life where everything was just clicking right where you were getting killer results, where you felt confident, where you are just on all the time, right? What was your mindset like? What did you believe about yourself and your situation?
So this first stage is taking the time to reconnect with that part of you that operates at your best. This part is so, so important, but most of the time people don’t want to start there, right? They want to start, you know, taking quote unquote tangible action, right? Write a resume, meet with people, write a plan. And I get that makes you feel like you’re moving forward because you know it’s, it’s this tangible action. It feels like you’re doing something.
But let me ask you this. If you knew that 80% of your project success or your team’s success, or your family success or your financial success was centered in one area, wouldn’t you think about focusing on that area first? Wouldn’t you think about putting all your energy there first?
Of course he would. Any logical person would.
So when it comes to doing anything, focusing on your mindset will always give you the best return on your hustle. Okay? Always.
So when it comes to taking back control of your career, start with the mindset first. And it’s a starting place, right? You’re not gonna answer a few questions or watch a few videos or listen to a few podcasts and say, Oh my God, I’m totally in control of my mindset. I got this and nail this thing in two weeks, right?
The goal in this first stage is really just to start you on the path to opening your mind to what’s possible in your career and also getting you more focused on where your opportunities are, right?
Focused on what’s working for you versus what’s not working for you and focused on, you know, what’s there in front of you versus what’s missing, right? It’s just as tweak and how you look at things. So that’s really the goal in this first stage is to get you more focused on the opportunities and thinking constructively.
Now, I’m not going to be able to take you through the entire process that I work through with my clients, but I am going to give you three areas to focus on and I want to give you a little homework, okay? To get you started. And if you’re interested in going deeper on this topic, then definitely subscribe to the podcast because you know, career mindset is one of the core categories of content that I’m going to be covering as we go through future episodes. And at the end of this podcast at this podcast, I’m going to give you some other opportunities that you can use to take this work further.
Okay? But for now, let’s get this process kicked off. So I’m going to give you three areas to start focusing on your mindset and in each area. I’m going to give you a little bit of homework, okay?
And don’t worry, you can’t write all this down right now because I’m going to put it all in the show firstname.lastname@example.org/03
Now, the first place I recommend you start focusing, is on what you believe about your career, okay? Because what you believe about yourself and your career creates your reality. If you believe you’re not good at something, then you’re never going to be good at it. If you believe you’ll only ever reach a certain level of success, then that’s probably what’s going to happen. If you believe that you can’t connect with a specific person or a specific kind of person, then that’s going to become your reality.
Or if you believe that you can take back control of your career and you will.
And if you believe that something is easy or fun or opportunity than it is, right?
So your first assignment is to go into your notebook or a Google doc or whatever makes sense for you and just make two columns, okay? The first is how you feel today. And the second column is how you feel when you’re at your best. Okay?
So this is two different versions of how you think. There’s the current version of you and how you think today. And there’s the version of you when you’re at your best. And there might be some similarities between those two version versions and there’s going to be some differences.
And in each column you’re going to answer the question, what do you believe about your career? Okay? And you can list as many beliefs as you can in both columns.
Don’t hold back, just let it flow, right? List the good, the bad, and the ugly. What do you believe about who you are? What you can do? What do you believe about your opportunities? What do you believe about, you know, what you’re in control of and what you’re not in control of. What do you believe about the people around you, right?
All of these things that make up your career and you’re going to do this for you know, the current version of how you think and how you think you’re at your best, okay? And I want you to know that as you’re writing these things down, none of these things have to be true, okay?
Regardless of the column you’re choosing for them to be true, the good stuff, the bad stuff, and the ugly stuff are all your choice, okay? So consider that, but just write down what’s going on with you right now and realize everything that you’re writing down is a choice that you’re making, okay?
That’s your first assignment.
Second, let’s talk about failure, okay? I know. So exciting. Love talking about failure… NOT… anyway.
Failure is something that you need to take head on because the fear of failing is the main thing that holds most people back, right? Fear of making the wrong decision. Fear of judgment, fear of not being good enough, right? They’re all connected to failure.
And just like when we covered beliefs, you get to choose what you make failure mean. You get to choose what you believe about failure. And the big challenge with failure is that we take it personally when really just because something failed doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It just means something failed.
Something failed in the process, something failed with your approach. It’s not personal, it’s not about you, it’s about whatever happened, right? You are in total control of what you make failure mean to you.
And you can make it mean something’s wrong with you. Or you can make it mean something simply, you know, needs to be tweaked in your process or how you approach things, right? Those are choices that you have.
So the first thing I would suggest to you is to reflect on why you feel however you feel about failure. Why do you fear it? Why is it scary? And is your fear based in something real or something that you’re making up in your head?
And then the second thing here is to go back to that chart you started with the beliefs that chart with the two columns. I’m going to answer this question. How do you feel about failure? So how do you feel about failure, the today version of you, and how do you feel about failure when you’re operating at your best?
Okay. And the last topic I’m going to cover today is about results.
So again, go back to the two columns and just answer this question. Okay? What kind of results are you getting today? And then ask yourself, what kind of results am I getting when I’m at my best?
And the result could be anything, right? Anything that you did that has an outcome, right? Uh, it could be how a certain conversation went, how you managed a meeting, how you handled a tough situation or a sudden change, right?
How you managed or lead a situation with your team, right? Any outcome that’s based on your actions creates a results, okay? So not the actions of others, just your actions.
So it’s not like, well, so and so did this. That’s why this happened. It’s not about that. Any outcome that’s based on your actions and even if someone else was involved, your actions also led to those results.
So think about the actions that you took that created the results, okay?
You had a role to play in how you showed up for that result, and that’s what you’re focusing on right now, okay? How you are showing up. So write down the kind of results you’re getting today versus the kind of results you’re getting when you’re showing up at your best. Okay?
And now that you’ve done all this work, once you kind of go through all of this, just take a moment and take a look at everything you wrote down and then see what kind of insights that you can pull from that. Okay? And you know what? Share your insights. Share them in the comments on the show email@example.com/03 and I’m guaranteeing you right now that you are going to get something out of this exercise. You are absolutely going to have an aha moment as you’re looking at the two columns and realizing some shifts that you could be making.
And it’s that string of aha moments that really helps you build a strong mindset, which leads to a successful career that you are ultimately in control of. So even though doing this exercise might only give you a handful of aha moments, keep your radar up. Keep watching yourself. Keep thinking to yourself and asking yourself, huh, why do I believe that? Does that need to be true? What am I making this mean right now?
If I’m a little afraid of failing at this. Why am I afraid of failing at this? Okay, this is the kind of result I need today. How do I need to show up to get that kind of result? Right?
Keep asking yourself these kinds of questions every day. And you know what? You might forget to ask yourself. Some days you might lose perspective, you might blow it, but every day you’re gonna catch yourself more and more often.
The key is just to start noticing. And the more you start noticing, the more you’re going to start making shifts in how you show up.
That’s it for today, my friends. I am so looking forward to hearing the kinds of shifts that are happening for you.
In the next episode, we’ll move on to talking about everyone’s favorite subject, the big question, how do I know what I want? Until then, take care of yourself and remember you are as amazing [00:27:00] as you believe you are. I’ll talk to you next time. Bye for now.
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